The Networking Challenge

Last year, I set myself a challenge. I decided it was time to step out of my comfort zone, stop being a stranger in my hometown, and attempt to connect with the surrounding people. Having spent years working on various contracts away from home, I realised that I’d never truly gotten to know the community I lived in. So I set myself a challenge to go to 1 networking event a month.

Overcoming the Networking Barrier 

Networking has never come naturally to me. For a long time, just the thought of it made me deeply uncomfortable. The idea of crafting a “polished professional persona” felt both inauthentic and extremely exhausting. Adding to the challenge, traditional networking events are generally held in environments that overwhelmed my neurodivergent brain—noisy, crowded, and overstimulating. 

Most events took place in busy bars, where you’d have to push through a sea of extroverts just to get a drink. Holding a drink often felt like a necessary way to calm my nerves or occupy my hands. Bringing a fidget toy to these things probably isn’t the best look. As the event kicks in it presents another challenge: if you’re sober, these situations can feel even more isolating. As the drinks flow and voices rise, the atmosphere only becomes more chaotic, making it harder to truly connect. This is normally when I leave to go home and recharge my introvert battery.

But what I learnt over the past year is that overcoming those barriers was worth it. Networking isn’t about being someone you’re not; it’s about being who you are. And through the process of meeting others, I’ve found that people appreciate authenticity and genuine conversation far more.

A Chance Connection That Changed My Perspective 

One encounter stands out on my networking journey—a chance meeting with a person during a casual conversation at a workshop. We discovered we had so much in common that we had lunch together and carried on the conversation - we shared our stories, challenges and our visions and what absolutely blew me away, well, both of us actually were how similar we were.

We both have a background in the food industry. We’re both facilitators, and we even attended the same university. Over the course of our conversation, we spoke about our respective careers, our ambitions, and what inspires us on a deeply personal level. 

That meeting was a reminder of the power of human connection. Had I stayed in my comfort zone and avoided networking, I might never have had the chance to meet someone as remarkable as he was. It was moments like these that helped me realise that networking isn’t just about professional exchange; it’s about building meaningful and enriching relationships.

Where I Am Today 

Reflecting on the past year, the difference between where I once was and where I stand today is so remarkable. What once felt like a daunting challenge of meeting strangers is now something I approach with curiosity and enthusiasm. 

My personal coaching session this week reminded me just how far I’ve come. I’ve become comfortable with something that initially felt alien and yukky. I’ve discovered how rewarding it can be, getting referrals for client work, but not only that. Networking has given me the chance to not only meet incredible people who I can help others connect with, too. Finding out what people are passionate about—what truly drives them—is endlessly fascinating. I’m constantly inspired by the stories people share and the paths they’ve taken.

What Networking Has Taught Me 

If you’re an entrepreneur, coach, or facilitator, I’d like to share a few lessons I’ve learned from my networking experiences:

• Be Authentic: People connect best with genuine individuals. There’s no need to put on a “professional act” to leave an impression—authenticity resonates. Choose networking, events where you feel comfortable and enjoy the atmosphere. 
• Bring a Supportive Friend: If you’re an introvert or find it challenging to start conversations, consider bringing along a friend for support. 
• Focus on Conversations, Not Agendas: Treat networking as an opportunity to engage in meaningful conversations and learn about others, rather than chasing a professional goal. 
• Listen Actively: Everyone has a unique story to share, and listening can unlock valuable insights or connections. It’s also a great way to broaden your perspective and invite more diversity into your life. 
• Embrace Discomfort: Growth often begins at the edge of your comfort zone. While networking events can feel intimidating, they’re also the space where transformative connections and opportunities often arise.
• Small steps: Start by committing to just one event, then gradually expand your efforts. Explore gatherings that align with your hobbies, interests, or curiosities to make the experience more enjoyable and rewarding.

If you’re feeling uncertain about networking, just remember this—you don’t need to have all the answers, and you don’t need to be someone you’re not. Just show up, be yourself, and listen to the incredible stories people have to share.

Have you had a similar experience with networking? I’d love to hear about how connecting with a community has influenced your growth— share your stories with me. I would love to know what doors and opportunities have opened up for you.